“Roses are red, violets are
blue....I'm scared of being alone and that's why I'm with you”.... Happy Valentines Day !!!
Around the Valentines day period, I notice a lot of people mysteriously
coupling up, taking selfies with captions like "date night with bae."
But two weeks prior they were screaming the single life! For some reason we
always need to feel attached or connected to someone at all times. Has the fear
of loneliness enslaved us in dead end relationships? Has it crippled our
ability to appreciate our OWN company?
We all have that one friend that invests all her energy into that prick
guy who disrespects her (even though he has no job, no ambition and is wearing
his net-worth every time you see him) just so she can go on a date in a
fancy restaurant (that she will probably pay) and take a f**king selfie. Only
to leave the restaurant with an empty purse and deflated self esteem.
She exhausts herself, constantly attempting to build this everlasting ‘Jay & Bey’ romance with an uninterested & unloyal dude, all in the name of ‘love’. Usually followed by a bunch of excuses as to why he hasn’t called in 9 days *rolls eyes*
She exhausts herself, constantly attempting to build this everlasting ‘Jay & Bey’ romance with an uninterested & unloyal dude, all in the name of ‘love’. Usually followed by a bunch of excuses as to why he hasn’t called in 9 days *rolls eyes*
When did the fear of 'loneliness' override our standards?! Allowing less
than decent men run through our emotions, time, effort and lady gardens just to
feel attached to a somewhat relationship. What would happen if we took all
that energy and dedication and started to ‘dating’ ourselves? Not in a creepy
Fifty Shades of Grey way guys, but a
real genuine, self indulgent kinda way. In a world where we are constantly
surrounded by others, whether it is your partner, Twitter constantly pinging or
1 of 6 group chats alerting you for 3 hours straight! We hardly get space to
breathe let alone finding the time to embark on a self exploration. We get
caught up in our relationships, especially the toxic ones, and lose ourselves.
Our wants, desires, goals and aspirations, mould to fit someone else’s
expectations or plans and the further we drift from ourselves. People use being
single as a hunting ground for their next potential bae than a time of
reflecting, self development and refocusing. When you indulge in yourself, you
won't have a lonely day in your life. Recognize your self worth and be
patient.... The real roses are coming!
Beni x
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