Showing posts with label confidence. Show all posts
Showing posts with label confidence. Show all posts

16/04/2015

Get Over It - Everyone Else Has...




Do you ever feel  like no one cares about what you're going through?  Or No one calls to check up on you or comes to your rescue? Guess what sweetie ! NO ONE FUCKING CARES! Yep, You read correct. No one cares, well at least not the way you want them to. We get to an age where everyone is doing their own thing, focusing on themselves and strategising their next career moves or business venture. We all have people who care for our well being, but they aways seem to have their own interest and agendas. Good old fashioned selfishness! But whos wrong in this situation them or you? while you are standing around feeling lonely , you're neglecting your most powerful allyyourself! 

This was a situation Ive found myself in one too many times. If you know me (hi guys) im a vocal, animated and very sociable. Possibly one of the most confident people youd ever meet. However, I was an extremely secretive person in regards to pretty much everything. From dudes, bad childhood experiences to family issues. It was like I needed to feel like I was in control of everything, so ultimately my friends were as much in the dark as a stranger off the street. I submerged my self into helping, advising and coaching others because it gave me purpose, it gave me taste of the very thing I was starved of.  Later, my unofficial shrink told me this was called deflection. Apparently It helps me ignore the negative feelings and emotions I have inside, which inturn make the situation worst.

03/03/2015

Are You Really A Boss....Bitch?!



Ladies, can we just discuss this phrase “Boss Bitch” because somehow I have seemed to have lost all understanding. The amount of women calling them self a “Boss Bitch” is ridiculous and annoying. Now, you know that I am pro female empowerment, so anything I do say is said in order to empower young women, therefore don’t get offended just take notes.

First of all I really want to explain to everyone what the word “Boss” actually means, ‘a boss is a person who is in-charge of workers or an organisation’.   If none of the above applies to you then you are NOT a Boss, I repeat you are NOT a Boss. This is crucial to understand if you intend on becoming a boss one day because your ignorance will get you NO WHERE!

Working a 9-5 shift in a stuffy office Monday to Friday, emailing your colleagues beside you does not make you a boss, it doesn’t even make you important in the eyes of society it just makes you a regular, simple, working class human being. I could even be generous enough to say that it makes you a hustler (and a bitch depending on your attitude) … but in no way shape or form does this make you a Boss.

28/10/2014

"Are Women Only Confident When Naked?"




I thought I’d start this article with a witty first liner comparable with that of Carrie Bradshaw but unfortunately that’s not going to happen. I’m sitting in a coffee shop, pondering over a discussion I had with my fairly misogynistic male friend. He remarked that I could not be as confident when relating to men, as men could be with women. I’m not talking about the ole’ double standard of men being able to sleep with lots of women and being praised and women doing the same and being called ‘sluts’ (we know, Lilly Allen, Eve etc have taught us that already). I’m talking about the idea that women who are confident are seen as intimidating, ‘man eaters’ and sometimes as lesbians, because they play hard ball. Pardon the pun. However when men are trail blazers, cocky and full of bravado-they’re simply manly, a man’s man. Since when did confidence become a male only attribute?