16/04/2015

Get Over It - Everyone Else Has...




Do you ever feel  like no one cares about what you're going through?  Or No one calls to check up on you or comes to your rescue? Guess what sweetie ! NO ONE FUCKING CARES! Yep, You read correct. No one cares, well at least not the way you want them to. We get to an age where everyone is doing their own thing, focusing on themselves and strategising their next career moves or business venture. We all have people who care for our well being, but they aways seem to have their own interest and agendas. Good old fashioned selfishness! But whos wrong in this situation them or you? while you are standing around feeling lonely , you're neglecting your most powerful allyyourself! 

This was a situation Ive found myself in one too many times. If you know me (hi guys) im a vocal, animated and very sociable. Possibly one of the most confident people youd ever meet. However, I was an extremely secretive person in regards to pretty much everything. From dudes, bad childhood experiences to family issues. It was like I needed to feel like I was in control of everything, so ultimately my friends were as much in the dark as a stranger off the street. I submerged my self into helping, advising and coaching others because it gave me purpose, it gave me taste of the very thing I was starved of.  Later, my unofficial shrink told me this was called deflection. Apparently It helps me ignore the negative feelings and emotions I have inside, which inturn make the situation worst.

11/03/2015

Women Should Be Allowed To Pay For Dinner....




After her interview with @FacebookHQ, Emma Watson revealed she loved chivalry, "but women should be allowed to pay for dinner". This has sparked a debate as to whether feminism is only one dimensional and has not yet expanded into every area of our lives. It made me wonder, although women should be allowed to pay for dinner, do we REALLY want to? I mean we've all rallied together in the name of feminism to fight for the equal rights of women, however do we really want feminism to effect the "perks" of being a woman? Do we really want to split the dinner bill in half, all to satisfy the principles equality. I think not! I'm drawn to believe that women want to have the ability to pay for the bill without actually paying for it. We want the freedom to open our own doors and push our own chairs under the table, but enjoy it being done for us. I think this begs the question are women really ready for an equal society?

For example, a friend of mine was asked on a date for Valentine's Day, (you can imagine her excitement) only to be told she has to pay for dinner and he'll pay for the hotel. She was absolutely disgusted. She went on the date assuming that he was joking. When the bill came they stared at each other with an awkward silence. He slid the bill towards her, to save herself any more "embarrassment", she reached into her purse and quickly paid for the bill. Less than 24hrs later she asked him for her money back (I'm sure you all know the status of that relationship).

03/03/2015

Are You Really A Boss....Bitch?!



Ladies, can we just discuss this phrase “Boss Bitch” because somehow I have seemed to have lost all understanding. The amount of women calling them self a “Boss Bitch” is ridiculous and annoying. Now, you know that I am pro female empowerment, so anything I do say is said in order to empower young women, therefore don’t get offended just take notes.

First of all I really want to explain to everyone what the word “Boss” actually means, ‘a boss is a person who is in-charge of workers or an organisation’.   If none of the above applies to you then you are NOT a Boss, I repeat you are NOT a Boss. This is crucial to understand if you intend on becoming a boss one day because your ignorance will get you NO WHERE!

Working a 9-5 shift in a stuffy office Monday to Friday, emailing your colleagues beside you does not make you a boss, it doesn’t even make you important in the eyes of society it just makes you a regular, simple, working class human being. I could even be generous enough to say that it makes you a hustler (and a bitch depending on your attitude) … but in no way shape or form does this make you a Boss.

14/02/2015

The Lonely Hearts Club







Roses are red, violets are blue....I'm scared of being alone and that's why I'm with you”.... Happy Valentines Day !!!


Around the Valentines day period, I notice a lot of people mysteriously coupling up, taking selfies with captions like "date night with bae." But two weeks prior they were screaming the single life! For some reason we always need to feel attached or connected to someone at all times. Has the fear of loneliness enslaved us in  dead end relationships? Has it crippled our ability to appreciate our OWN company? 

We all have that one friend that invests all her energy into that prick guy who disrespects her (even though he has no job, no ambition and is wearing his net-worth every time you see him)  just so she can go on a date in a fancy restaurant (that she will probably pay) and take a f**king selfie. Only to leave the restaurant with an empty purse and deflated self esteem. 

09/11/2014

The Number Between Her Legs Review





After reading this I began to wonder if I am a victim of the fear of being slut shamed or evening slut shaming. This book is one that should have been written hundreds of years ago as that’s how long it’s been needed. It is refreshing to hear a young woman have such a liberating outlook on sex. Exploring your sexuality is not a crime, it’s an option!

A great line in this book is “we are made to think our value lies in our vagina”… WOW…spot on!!! Women are made to think that this is their most valuable asset and if too many men enter, it “depreciates in value”.

04/11/2014

Catcall or Compliment????



Please watch our response video surrounding the issue of Street Harassment. Is there such a thin line between objectifying a woman and admiring her that we should avoid the two all together?

I have a few reservations. Have we taken the definition of harassment and twisted it one step too far??

 Please watch, comment, debate and share!!!!


Here's the link to the original video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b1XGPvbWn0A

28/10/2014

"Are Women Only Confident When Naked?"




I thought I’d start this article with a witty first liner comparable with that of Carrie Bradshaw but unfortunately that’s not going to happen. I’m sitting in a coffee shop, pondering over a discussion I had with my fairly misogynistic male friend. He remarked that I could not be as confident when relating to men, as men could be with women. I’m not talking about the ole’ double standard of men being able to sleep with lots of women and being praised and women doing the same and being called ‘sluts’ (we know, Lilly Allen, Eve etc have taught us that already). I’m talking about the idea that women who are confident are seen as intimidating, ‘man eaters’ and sometimes as lesbians, because they play hard ball. Pardon the pun. However when men are trail blazers, cocky and full of bravado-they’re simply manly, a man’s man. Since when did confidence become a male only attribute?