The Lonely Hearts Club

“Roses are red, violets are blue....I'm scared of being alone and that's why I'm with you”.... Happy Valentines Day !!!

Around the Valentines day period, I notice a lot of people mysteriously coupling up, taking selfies with captions like "date night with bae." But two weeks prior they were screaming the single life! For some reason we always need to feel attached or connected to someone at all times. Has the fear of loneliness enslaved us in  dead end relationships? Has it crippled our ability to appreciate our OWN company? 

We all have that one friend that invests all her energy into that prick guy who disrespects her (even though he has no job, no ambition and is wearing his net-worth every time you see him)  just so she can go on a date in a fancy restaurant (that she will probably pay) and take a f**king selfie. Only to leave the restaurant with an empty purse and deflated self esteem. 

Yes, No, Maybe?...

When we talk about sex and consent, it is usually in one way. We often associate the right to consent with a woman and it seems as though only a woman can determine whether the act of sex occurs or not. This only emphasises the poor general assumption that guys always want sex and do not have the ability to turn it down. This is in fact a generalisation made by plenty of women who haven't experienced being turned down for sex just yet. When I told a friend about the topic of this article she said to me 'guys don't say no to sex though', as a man who has said no to a woman who wants to have sex, I can vouch that some men do say no.

Believe them the FIRST time!

      

I learnt to do this the hard way. I didn't pay attention to the signs that were shown to me from the very beginning. You’re probably wondering what I’m talking about. My ex, who didn't treat me well. You see I should’ve known that when a guy doesn't call as often as you call him or barely takes you out to lush restaurants, bars or on dates in general, it’s probably not going anywhere regardless of what he says. His actions or rather lack of them, are probably never going to change.

Don’t get me wrong, yes, some people do change, but how long will it take for that change to come around? I realised that he had already shown me his true colours from the start, however, the question is why was I shocked when he revealed himself year in year out? When would I start believing his character and realise the relationship was rubbish and he was taking me for a ride?